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paskeeggLast year, I told you the story of how my sister, Dottie, my cousin, Ted, and I learned the Easter hymn sung during Eastern Orthodox Easter. I told you about my father and how he taught us the words in Greek, and how he helped us pronounce, and remember, the very last word by telling us to say “Harry, Sam, and Us. The whole story can be found here. That was the first time my sister and I attended the Easter Sunday Agape service. The next year, we went to the midnight Easter service and then to the celebratory feast afterwards.

In the Orthodox tradition, there is a moving service that is held at midnight rejoicing in the empty tomb of Christ. Most churches are packed to overflowing as chants and prayers are intoned. Just before midnight, all the lights in the sanctuary are turned off. It is a solemn, sacred moment to believers, and one of palpable anticipation. It is utterly silent and dark. As the new day is born, Easter morning, the bells ring and the priest rejoices with the words “Christos Anesti”, holding one lit candle, which lights another, then another, until the entire church is bathed in the soft glow of candlelight and song. A liturgy is then celebrated, lasting until well after 1:30 am.

There is, of course, much more to this religious celebration that I am expressing here, but, I hope it gives you a feel for the anticipation my sister and I had when we were allowed to attend this Easter resurrection service for the first time. It was a rite of passage, allowing us into an adult time of worship and I will never, ever forget it.

In those years, the early 1960′s, our church was a fledging parish, set off on its own from an established church in Chicago. It was founded by first generation Greek Americans, the children of immigrants, who were slowly, gradually, purposefully moving out to the suburbs, buying mostly new houses in subdivisions with new schools named Nixon and Eisenhower. These new schools rented gymnasiums and classrooms to newly formed churches to use until they could raise the money to build their own. Our small band of parishioners and a priest with a vision did the same, first using public schools, then buying a small, older church, finally building a new one that has stood now for nearly five decades.

It was in the “used” church that my fondest memories dwell. It was walking distance from our house and situated across the street from my grade school. Roosevelt Elementary School and Holy Apostles Greek Orthodox Church, in Broadview, Illinois, blocks from the Eisenhower Expressway, seven blocks from our house. It was in Roosevelt School that I first learned of the assassination of John Kennedy, and then, a few days later, on the steps of Holy Apostles,  that Lee Harvey Oswald was shot. It was in Roosevelt School where I watched an American launched into space and in Holy Apostles basement that I learned the Greek alphabet. It was in that school that I was a seal in the circus and  it was in that church that I was a fallen angel of the Lord in the Christmas pageant. It was in the church where my sister managed to roll her quarter “offering” down the aisle at a most solemn moment. I can still hear the sound as it seemed to roll on and on and on, trying hard not to giggle. It was during Greek School lessons in the church basement where we all sat giggling beyond control as we saw a man enter the ladies’ restroom (the man, we later learned, couldn’t read English). I remember one of the boys raising his hand, shouting in Greek, “barroe na pao sto meros”, loosely meaning I have to go the bathroom and twenty or so children bursting into fits of laughter.

It was in this humble church that I attended my first midnight service and in the church basement afterwards that my sister and I were first allowed to partake in the celebratory feast. There was lamb and potatoes, Greek yogurt (what? you thought it was just invented now?) , bread and salad and sweets – and red Easter eggs, which would take me on a path of Olympic glory. Okay. Not exactly Olympic glory, but rather a mini-moment of fame.

Greek Easter eggs are traditionally dyed red, representing the blood of Christ. They are really quite beautiful in a basket or nestled into a big round loaf of Greek Easter bread. They are also employed in a game of seeing who can crack the most eggs without having their own crack.

I sat, primly, in my Easter dress and bonnet, enjoying the food and the sense of community as folks ate, chatted in two different languages, the priest prayed and spoke, women served food. My mother helped with the serving. My dad was often interrupted to shake this person’s hand, or got up to say hello to someone.

Then, the boys started cracking eggs. I was a shy child and was about 12 years old at the time. That awkward age for most girls, made more so by masses of boys with red egg-shell weapons in their hands. One of the boys came over to try to crack my egg. I’m sure he thought that quiet Penny would be an easy target. Not so, for he hit mine with his pointed end and his cracked! He used the other end, and it cracked as well. I felt pretty swell, sitting there, having spent not a whit of energy on the exchange. Another boy came up with the same results. Daddy saw his opportunity and stood up. Having two daughters, one painfully shy, does not give a father too many moments of this kind of pride. He went over to one of the men. I’m sure he said something to the effect of “none of the boys can crack my daughter’s Easter egg”. Of course, a few more boys came over and tried, their Easter eggs turning into masses of red shell. At some point, my dad looked concerned. Two many boys around his older daughter, I’m sure.

I won that  year. Nary a dent in my Easter egg. I proudly brought it home. Yia Yia put it in an old, chipped cup and it was on display, then it went into a cabinet above the stove, where it sat, for many years. Ma would take it out for me to look at, then carefully place it back into its tomb. She would let me gently shake it so I could hear the yolk rattle, with strong warning to be careful, for, if dropped, well, imagine the smell.

I don’t know what happened to that Easter egg. It was likely thrown away when we moved from the house. I do know what happened to my memories of that first Easter service. It sits awesomely in my memory and I take it out each year.

Image source and more information about Greek Easter eggs and game can be found by clicking here and here.

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Bonnets

 

 

We’ve grabbed our Easter bonnets and are heading up North to wish a little lass a happy birthday, though ski masks and boots will likely be more practical on Easter morn.

 

 

Do you remember a time when women wore hats as part of their “ensemble”? Even as a little girl, I always wore a hat to church, my thick, brown hair swirling around like little sausages from the rag curls my grandmother, Yia Yia, had created. Penny and Dottie, in matching outfits, skinned knees and anklets. Nice memories for me. I hope you have a few such memories as well, whether you are celebrating Passover, Easter, or the beginning a of new season. Whether it be spring here in the northern hemisphere, or autumn in the southern hemisphere, I wish you peace and hope this weekend, and leave you with Judy Garland and Fred Astaire.

 

 

 

 

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DSCN1238St. Patrick’s Day is celebrated with quite a bit of enthusiasm in these parts, with plenty of corned beef and cabbage to be had, the wearin’ of the green the fashion of the day, Irish music being played in pubs and on the radio, and local television stations featuring everything from how to make green beer local step dancing troupes performing.

Chicago and the suburbs surrounding it boast a large Irish American population; a proud people whose heritage enriches the lives of all us, especially Herself, for you see, Himself is half Irish. Here on the Cutoff, we celebrate with a slow cooked corned beef cabbage and carrot dinner, which is preceded by aromas wafting from the oven of Irish soda bread, and, yes, a glass of beer raise in a toast with. My soda bread recipe is here, as well as how it came to be in our family.

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The City of Chicago has several St. Patrick’s Day parades, one  down Columbus Drive along Lake Michigan,  the other on Chicago’s south side, with several suburbs boasting large parades as well. I know for I’ve marched in a few myself.

Picture source and information can be found at www.chicagostpatsparade.com/river-dye.html

Picture source and information can be found at http://www.chicagostpatsparade.com/river-dye.html

Come mid March, the Chicago River faithfully turns a shade of emerald green; a sight to behold, especially for a river that flows backwards.

Now, my friends, I’m a bit sluggish today for all the soda bread I’ve stuffed into my mouth, so I’ll leave you with these few pictures, links, and video of St. Paddy’s Day the Chicago way.

Himself and I enjoy the lilt and lyrics of a well-known Chicago group called Arranmore. I’ve posted about their rendition of Danny Boy, which always has us weeping, here. They have another song, which plays on local radio shows on St. Patrick’s Day, that is always good fun to hear. It is called South Side Irish.

Do you celebrate St. Patrick’s Day? Have you ever marched in a parade?

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my true love gave to me

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a partridge in a pear tree.

Well, he didn’t really give me a partridge as it was already perched in the tree, and it wasn’t a pear tree. It was a Christmas tree. There were, however, presents gaily wrapped beneath the tree, Christmas music playing in the background, and the yeasty aromas of bread emanating from the oven as we shared our simple Christmas gifts, nibbled on Ethel cookies over coffee, and busied about preparing food for family later in the afternoon.

I made a simpler dinner this year; a chicken casserole, spinach salad rounded out with Jennifer’s green beens and shallots and, of course, the afore mentioned bread.

The table was set and I was just lighting the candles when the back door opened and in walked Heather and Andrew – and this young dragon, properly hued in green. Oh, he roared and wiggled his tail, he munched on cookies and ate those green beans, and he even stood still for a hug from Aunt Penny.

Don’t you just love the simple joys that come with holiday traditions?

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beatrix-potter-happenings-in-the-animal-world-a-rabbits-christmas-party-the-departure.jpg.pngMy sister’s house was the first in several stops I made today as I dropped off holiday cookies. I brought her some Spritz I baked the night before; a new recipe using vanilla beans and dusted with cinnamon sugar. As Dottie nibbled on the cookies, we sipped coffee and recalled how our mother always made Spritz, The conversation rambled from new kitchen counter tops to grandchildren to the aromatic pasta sauce simmering on her stove – all in the manner that women have always employed when it comes to weaving stories in conversation. Our talk eventually came to her violin.

I was thinking more about Dottie’s violin as I drove to my next destination. Christmas music was playing on the car radio and my drive took me past the old neighborhood and home where our girls grew up – where memories were made.

I guess it was all the talk of Christmases past, Dottie’s violin, and seeing the old house that brought back memories of the last Christmas before we moved to the Cutoff.

Our house had been on the market just before Christmas. Most of our personal items had been stored. The rooms had been “staged” for sale. Tom and I put up a pre-lit artificial tree, which was magical when lit, but was bare of ornaments. It was actually a good move to limit our decorations as we accepted a bid on the house in early December and moved out just after the new year.

That year, we didn’t have as many guests for Christmas Eve dinner. Katy and Tom wouldn’t arrive until after Christmas. Friends and family who had come before all had other places to be, but my cousin Ted and Maria came, as did Jennifer and Jason.We shared in good food and conversation that night, knowing it would be the last in the house that had been our home for so long.

It was a very cold Christmas Eve that year and it snowed a snow of magnificent flakes with the fresh, sweet smell that comes with a good snow.

Dottie and Rick decided not to come to eat, but, maybe, just maybe they would stop by later.

It seemed as if everything happened at once. The doorbell rang just as we finished eating and opening up gifts. In they came, Dottie and Rick,with a gush of cold, just as Ted started playing the piano. Jason soon took his turn at the keys and Dottie wondered aloud if maybe she should bring her violin in. She had just started taking lessons, having not played since childhood. We all encouraged her to join in. Her music stand was set up. Tom brought out his guitar and before we knew it, like that gush of wind, we were singing sweet carols or humming along, laughing and glowing along with the fireplace embers.

With each song, the musicians got stronger and more comfortable with each other and the sweetness of the moment grew and grew until it ended, as all good things must. The lingering strains of our most musical Christmas remain to this day, no, this very Eve. I will think of it still as I wander up to bed, wishing you and yours, wherever you are and whatever you celebrate this season, a most wonderful holiday filled with the love of family and friends and of all things good and peaceful.

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1115683You would think, would you not, that with all our ornamental baggage, I would bypass the Hallmark and American Greeting aisles, skip past the  Kindle Market, and avoid any and all holiday displays? Oh, no. Not me. There I was like a moth to a flame in Kohl’s looking at ornaments.

Sitting off to the side, all by itself, was a darling diminutive birdhouse. It was just the right size for our woodland tree, covered in antiqued paper with the words to It’s the “Most Wonderful Time of the Year” . There I was, smitten, over an ornament I didn’t need, when I noticed the perch was missing. I picked up the birdhouse and shook it. “Aha“, said I to no one in particular, “it is inside“. Then,  I shook it some more, turned it upside down and right side up. Now perched upon my own little mission, I endeavored to retrieve the perch by slowly slipping my finger in into the little hole – which was exactly when my finger got stuck in the hole!

It was a tad embarrassing as I tried to ease my pointer out of the birdhouse with holiday shoppers in bah-humbug moods staring at me.

Have you ever stood in a store with a Christmas ornament stuck on your finger?

It is just as well. We have too many ornaments and it would have been hard to hang on the tree with my finger stuck inside.

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140-1A repost from a few years ago that I thought you might enjoy while I’m off baking cookies, wrapping presents, watching for deer,singing carols and otherwise ’tissing the season here on the Cutoff. 

It is one of our wackier memories of family dinners and has become what we affectionately call “the Clapper Christmas”.

My cousin Louis gave his mother a Clapper for a Christmas present. It was the Christmas after my mom had passed away and Aunt Christina had us all over for Christmas dinner. We are a lively bunch that tend to get rather loud. This branch of my family tree is known for its sarcasm and wit. A Clapper for Christmas was doomed for hilarity before the wrapping paper was undone.

Do you know what a Clapper is? No, not that! It is a remote control device that, when hands are clapped, will turn on lights. Clever, don’t you agree?  Enter a dark room, late at night, and there is no need to fumble for a light switch. Just clap your hands, two times. Illumination. Lights out? Clap again. The commercial goes something like this:

Clap on, one, two. Clap on, three, four. Clap on, clap off. One, two . . .  three four.

I can’t believe this item is still being sold. I heard an advertisement on the radio in the car and immediately burst into a fit of laughter. There I was, sitting at a light, listening to the radio, all by my lonesome, remembering the Clapper Christmas and laughing out loud.

We arrived at Aunt Christina’s late afternoon that Christmas day. It was a typical family scene; presents strewn about, children playing with toys, male adults playing with the kid’s toys, women in the kitchen preparing the feast, wonderful aromas emanating.  A long table set up in the living room to accommodate all in attendance. Christmas chaos reigned.

Louis said something to us about his gift to his mother and then urged my aunt to come out and practice clapping. Nothing. Clap, clap again. Nothing. The clapping was analyzed and repeated until her temper frayed and she said forget it. That’s not what she really said, but, well, my Aunt Christina was known to employ saucy language. I won’t tell you what adjectives she used, but, I will tell you that upon using them, loudly, the light turned on, then off, then on again. It was hard not to laugh. It is hard not to laugh right now. She tried clapping again. Nothing.  She went back into the kitchen.

Dinner was served. We all sat at the table, talking all at once, laughing and enjoying family and food. Louis said something his mother couldn’t hear. My aunt was a tad hard of hearing at this point, so, he said it again and she yelled at him. He did it on purpose. We all knew he did. She yelled. The lights went out. She called him a name. The lights went on. We laughed, we ate, Louis did something else, she yelled, the lights went out. She yelled. Lights on. I think we took turns telling Louis to stop teasing his mother. He would for awhile, then . . .

Yep! The Clapper Christmas. I miss those days.

 

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DSCN0971In the midst of opening boxes filled with ornaments and decorations that wanted to be on the tree or mantle, atop a table or settled onto a shelf, I’d temporarily placed some glass ornaments on top of the old chefferobe. It was there the sunlight found them, bouncing off the pretty glass globes in the most alluring way. Prisms of light danced around the walls and the cut glass basket magnified the assortment of ornaments. They were like bowls of crystal candy and I could not help myself. Out came the camera as I tried to freeze a few moments in time.

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The glass basket was a wedding gift of my mother and father-in-law’s: a common present in the 1940′s. It often sat on their dining room table, sometimes with flowers from Tom’s mother’s garden. I always admired it and was happy to have it one day come into our home where it has sometimes held flowers and, this year, held Christmas ornaments.

The sugar bowl was a gift from a friend. Linda found it to match a pitcher that came from Tom’s great aunt, Ethel. It is the thistle pattern and was just waiting for this orange ball to stop by and rest. I love it when old things marry well with new.

DSCN0978The chefferobe is an old dresser that sat for years in the bathroom of the family’s old farmhouse. Towels and linens were kept in it. The mirror tilts. I can imagine Ethel fixing her hair in front of it or her brother Richard shaving. It is Ethel’s pinwheel and molasses cookies that fill our house with the fragrances of the holidays each year and it was Richard who often did the icing.

The glass ornaments are from Tom’s and my life together. Some are blown glass, others hand-painted, all gaily colored holiday magic and whimsy. I appreciate the way these little works of art sat in and on the past while catching the future in the early morning sun.

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DSCN0964Sometimes I wonder about my life. I lead a small life – well, valuable, but small – and sometimes I wonder, do I do it because I like it, or because I haven’t been brave? So much of what I see reminds me of something I read in a book, when shouldn’t it be the other way around? I don’t really want an answer. I just want to send this cosmic question out into the void. So good night, dear void.  

Kathleen Kelly via email to Joe Fox in Nora Ephron’s You’ve Got Mail.

As I wended my way home the other day, the streetlights suddenly came on. Have you ever been out-and-about as the streetlights come on? It is a magical moment that always takes me by surprise. For just a moment I imagine it has occurred just for me. Imaginations are good that way, aren’t they? They can make you feel good just when you want them to.  It was a perfect moment to end a perfect afternoon. I sighed and smiled and felt the grace in leading such a life.

On Sunday, you see, I had received a lovely email inviting several women to Carolyn’s house to see her Christmas tree. We were given two days to choose from for a few hours in the afternoon. It was so sweet and unexpected. I sent a reply and eagerly awaited my chosen afternoon to arrive.

DSCN0956Our holiday season has already been busy with a few things weighing heavily on my heart. It is what it is and I’m not complaining, but time has been often spent hurrying here and there, a few late nights, rushing off to whatever is next while carrying a extra pounds of worry.  A few gracious hours of sipping wine, nibbling on homemade poppy seed cake,and  engaging in interesting conversation while wrapped in the softer side of the season was a balm for my soul.

Carolyn’s house was built as part of the 1933 Chicago World’s Fair. It was at some point moved from the lakefront to its current suburban spot. It is a charming house made all the more so by its owners’ appreciation of antiques, art, and family history.

Wednesday’s attraction, however, was the magnificent fourteen foot fir, resplendent with dripping tinsel DSCN0963and adorned with ornaments that seemed to take on a life of their own. The tree was fresh,  having been cut just days before by Sam and Carolyn. The distinct fragrance of pine filled the room as only a fresh cut tree can. For all its height and breadth, this fir wasn’t an imposing dictator, but rather  a benevolent character in a Christmas pageant, acting his part, drawing me in and making my small but valuable life fuller.

As I’ve grown older, I’ve come to appreciate more and more these moments in time that help to center me and remind me of the simple joy of friendship and conversation. How about you? What small yet pleasurable moments have come your way lately?

I think I need want to watch You’ve Got Mail soon.

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DSCN0944I am fairly certain, well, at least as certain one can be about things that were never to be, that had my father lived to know and enjoy his grandchildren, he would have convinced them that the inspiration for bobbleheads were none other than Teddy and Penny!

Teddy is my first cousin and my oldest friend. He and I are 26 days apart in birth with me the oldest, a fact that Ted ALWAYS reminds me of on my birthday. Not only are we close in age, but we also lived in the same house until we were four and half years old, then lived next door to each other until we were eighteen. We were playmates from the beginning with my sister, Dottie, making us a trio two and half years later.

I was thinking a bit about Christmases past as I pulled the few ornaments of my childhood out of their box, rubbing my hands over one of the glass birds that has long been without his tail. As these things go, I wondered and then wandered to one of my mother’s photo albums, looking for old Christmas pictures. One black and white photo led to another, a magnifying glass was deployed, and there, right next to my rather startled demeanor, is one of the glass birds with his tail intact.  If you click on twice, you can see it just to the right of my waist.

Don’t you love those curls? They are rag curls, done at the hands of my Yia Yia, who wet strips of material and wound my hair around them. I think they were hoping for a Shirley Temple look.

As I often do here on the Cutoff, I digress. It is bobbleheads that are the topic, and the Christmas Teddy and I were turning three, maybe four. We were old enough to be taken in by Santa, but my sister not yet part of the tale.

As the story goes, we were playing, companionable together as we always were. Our flat had a long hallway where we would entertain each other within close range of all the adults in the house. The hall and a large kitchen with a pantry were the boundaries of most of our playtime, though there is another tale for another time of an impromptu tea party and the toilet.

In our bedroom, what must have originally been the parlor, my mom, dad, sister and I slept. It was off of the kitchen, had its own fireplace, and, besides my parent’s double bed, a youth bed, a crib, a rocking chair and a suite of furniture, including a cedar chest, there was also a television set and a stereo.

One fine day in late December Teddy and I were playing, the adults doing what adults did; cooking, reading, talking. It is said that suddenly a voice came out of the stereo, a long wooden box that played 78′s from the Big Band Era with a radio. It was just sitting there with a voice booming forth, saying  “Penny. Teddy, this is Santa Clause, are you being good?” .

Two little heads, wide-eyed and attentive, looked at the big wooden box that once again said “Penny. Teddy. Are you being good?” as my rag curl noggin and Teddy’s blonde curls bobbled up and down affirming what a good little boy and girl we had been.

It was my father’s voice that was coming out of the stereo, from somewhere in the basement. How he did it, I do not know. I just know that the story was told, again and again, over many Christmas dinners, of how Santa came to see if Penny and Teddy were naughty or nice one Christmas.

Here are the two bobbleheads, circa 1951. I can only imagine what antics were going on above our heads to keep us both at attention while the picture was being taken. DSCN0945

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